Lessons in Love

As far as I can remember, I have always been at the center of love universe. I have always judged lovers by what they can do to make me happy. It has always happened at a very subtle level, with me having the strings of the relationships. To put it bluntly, it's always been about me and more of me. I love attention, unbridled devotion, perhaps. I believe I have got that in abundance from anyone I have dated.

However, for the first time in my life, I want to be out of the center and not control the things around. I want to see how I react where I am not the receiver all the time, or the rule maker. It has bothered me no end that I haven't been able to share the happiness of my lovers, where I have not been the cause or the effect.

I think, this has been a major aspect of my love life but then I seriously believe this is not love. I cannot always be the ring master. I cannot always make the rules and ask someone to abide by them till their last breath. I cannot run over someone's space and make it all mine. I cannot call it quits when the person comes close and falls in ' trap'.

So, what is it that I am going to doto set my love universe in order:

1) It has to be We, Us, Ours.
2)Understanding that its all about give and take.
3) Taking things as they cme, not rushing through and not falling apart.
4) Take it slow, real slow, with no promises that make the other vulnevrable.
5) Be open to learning and criticism from my partner.
6)Be happy in their happiness, no matter how big or small..and irrespective of my being the cause or effect.
7) Love the other as much as I love myself and being empathetic towards the other.
8) Define relationship as a partnership based on equality.

Let's see how it shapes up.